Boyo is now about 4 months old. I should have started training him alone a little more seriously several weeks ago, but I admit that I was lazy and did not take it. But now it's time, for very many reasons. For example, because I want to be able to go to Ica and pick up a package without needing help with the care of Boyo.
And, eventually I want to be able to go to the doctor's and other things without taking Boyo with me, or leave him with someone else. But it's a little too early so far, because we barely trained on this.
But today has for example, I had washing time. So far, Boyo has, even though you are not really allowed to do so, been with me in the laundry room. As a little boy, I had him in a sling. As a little bigger, he got to sit in “hallen” outside the laundry room itself. From now on he will sit and wait outside in the stairwell (the laundry room is located in the basement) while I'm on. I've done that with Ella all these years, and intends to continue to do so with Boyo. I'm a little comfortable with myself, and usually use the time that the machines go to take a walk.
He was small pipig, out there in the stairwell, it was him. But he simply has to learn to deal with it. And he was far from as squeamish as Ella was when she learned to sit there and wait. Oh my God, she screamed and roared. He does not – he beeps a little and is a little worried. But it will work.
And tomorrow should we start solitude training at home. The biggest reason we've not done it so far is this fucking Corona. Not because I'm wearing Corona by going out on the stairs, but it feels really ridiculous to train on something that in some probability will not be needed to a very high degree for quite a long time. Last night I read that covid-19 can last for a couple of years.
So for that reason it feels a bit bitter and sucky. Men; on the other hand, I want him to be able to be himself, so just walk out of the stairwell, stand there and philosophize for a while and then go in again. And so do it again the next day, lite, a little longer.
I believe in and that it will go well. Why would it not do that, as well as!? As with everything else they have to learn, the little lives, it will surely feel strange to him at first. But being alone should not be a strange thing. I've never done much of going or coming home again. It should be as natural as I am here.
Another reason to train him alone is that it might make it easier for someone else to take the leash and leave (or that I'm leaving), so that he does not have to be completely hysterical. I'm not surprised he's so motherly, but it does have a tendency to become problematic in the long run.
But there is at least a plan. On the one hand, Lilo's mother will help litegrand, partly I will get help from Mozart's family – when he has been declared healthy from his giardia. They have submitted draft samples, so hopefully they get answers this week.
So for my and Boyo's part is just to start practicing this hard now. I can not have a dog that can not be alone – it kind of does not work.